Mary J. Blige is opening up about her recent divorce from her husband, Kendu Isaacs.
They couple had been together for 12 years. Blige says that the “overwhelming disrespect” in the marriage is what led her to start questioning the relationship.
“I can sense that I’m not what you want anymore,” said Blige. She additionally commented that Isaacs began to question her about trivial matters, such as why she didn’t style her hair a certain way.
“You start to realize that this man doesn’t want you and he’s just gone all the time and you’re by yourself in the relationship,” she says. “When you realize you’re by yourself and you’re just suffering through it, now it’s time to do some investigating.”
She began to hear rumors about a possible affair Isaacs had been having, and she decided it was time to do something about it. She says, “when I got the full proof, I didn’t have to investigate it. It just showed up.”
When Blige began to talk specifically about her ex husband’s mistress, she said, “Do not let her nowhere what you’re doing for me, because she’s the reason for all this shit. That’s my Becky with the good hair!”
Blige said of her ex-husband, ““All these years have come to this, like you didn’t even pick me, you picked somebody else. That shit is humiliating. It hurt real bad.”
Blige says that the divorce is the hardest thing she’s ever gone through. She relies on prayer, music, and support from loved ones and fans to carry her through. “It’s a release. If I didn’t share it with you I’d probably be dead somewhere,” she said. “I found out I wasn’t what this person wanted all these years…and that somebody was better. That’s wounding.”
Her strength throughout this difficult time which she compares to experiencing the death of a loved one is truly inspiring. Check out her emotional trailer below.