Instagrammer Michelle Elman wants women to know that dress sizes are complete B.S.
Five years ago, Michelle was a UK size 12. Now, she’s a size 20. However, she still fits in a dress that she bought five years ago. She says she wants to use this as a reminder to anyone who is unhappy with their size that “numbers don’t mean anything.”
NUMBERS DON'T MEAN ANYTHING. I found a dress in my cupboard the other day that I had since I was in sixth form. The dress is a size 14. I bought it 5 years ago when I was a size 12. Now, I'm a size 20. And yet, I still fit it. Which just proves that NUMBERS DON'T MEAN ANYTHING. So are you really going to let a change a dress size dictate your day? Are you really going to let an increase in a number affect your mood? Same dress. Still comfortable. Still beautiful. (In fact, I think I look better and happier now!) A higher dress size doesn't mean: – you are less beautiful – you are less worthy – you are less lovable – you are a worse human – you are a bad person – you are a different person AND it doesn't even mean you have a bigger body. You could go up a dress size by simply changing stores… (or countries). You can change dress sizes because of the time of the day or simply due to whether you are on your period or not. If you look at your cupboard and you find it harder and harder to find something to wear because of a change in clothing size, I have a great solution for you… throw out all clothes that don't fit. Looking at your wardrobe shouldn't be something that makes you feel insecure and sad so make sure everything in your wardrobe fits! Numbers don't matter. Not the number on the back of your jeans, on the scale or even the number in your bank account. You are not a number. #OneTakeBeauty #BodyPositivity EDIT: For anyone saying I'm lying about my size. Check my stories
Michelle explains that she “always had this fear of going over 200 pounds.” She says she promised herself that she would never “cross that point.” But when she was 19, she underwent bowel obstruction surgery.
“When I came out, I was only allowed to eat low fiber foods and was prevented from eating any vegetables and fruits and from exercising,” she said. Whilst I felt the urge to diet and exercise, I knew my body needed to recover from my abdominal surgeries and so I sat down with myself and made a choice to prioritize my health and accept the weight gain as part of my recovery.”
Michelle continued to gain weight.
“Although I struggled with that mentally, that’s ultimately how I began loving my body,” says Michelle. “I realized I was simply grateful for having survived so many surgeries and still having the ability to use body was a gift.”
Picking up on a few of the comments from yesterday's post. "You look good for a size 20" – This is not a compliment. It's like saying that an older woman looks good "for her age". Who says size 20 women can't look good? Who says older women can't look good? It's ALSO an insult to all my other size 20 babes. When you say I look good for a size 20, it usually means I look skinnier than a size 20 which still sends the message: thin = good, fat = bad. "You are lying, you aren't a size 20" – I am a U.K. Size 20. It is a fact that changes depending on which store but the majority of my clothes are size 20. That is a fact. This assumption that I'm lying is contingent on your perception of what a size 20 looks like. This perpetuates the idea that fat equals ugly or unattractive which is most definitely DOES NOT! "You distorted camera angles + edited it to look skinnier" – It was not a preprepared photo that I planned from 5 years ago so yes different angles but it's the only photo I had in the dress. The photo from 2012 had a filter because another person took that photo. The one from 2017 is not edited/filtered in anyway. These assumptions are based on the fact I have something to hide. NOT HIDING. Right here telling you my dress size. "You aren't even fat. You should stop invalidating the struggles of actual fat women and taking away from the movement" – I don't know what you deem as "actual fat" but both my weight + my dress size indicates I am. I use the word fat because it's not an insult. When you tell me I'm not allowed to use a word that describes me, when I experience the marginalisation of anyone in my size, that invalidates MY experience of being fat-bodied. In terms of taking away from the movement, you'll be hard pushed to find another mixed-race, not able-bodied, fat scarred woman talking about chronic illness and chronic pain and THAT representation matters. In summary, if people tell you they are a certain size, believe them. They are the ones picking out their clothes! You can be the same dress size + look bigger/smaller as shown in the two photos above! Whatever your size, you look good for your size 😉 #scarrednotscared #onetakebeauty
Michelle’s Instagram posts prove that sizes truly mean nothing.
“Appreciate your body for all that it does for you every day to keep you alive and breathing. Your body is the sole reason you are still here and you are lucky that it works.
“Numbers are numbers, they can’t measure how healthy you are and they can’t measure how happy you are in your body. There’s no point in having a small dress size if you have to deprive yourself or miss out on your life in order to achieve that number.”