The Best Lesbian And Queer Sex Positions To Try Tonight, According To Sex Therapists

Reported by Women's Health Magazine.

Let's be clear: "lesbian sex" isn't a narrow category with a fixed menu. It's any configuration of pleasure that works for the people involved — which means the options are, practically speaking, infinite. Rachel Wright, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York, puts it simply: sex is any meaningful act of pleasure, and a queer sex position is whatever position a queer person finds themselves in. That's not a loophole. That's the whole point.

Still, infinite options can paradoxically make it harder to get creative. According to Women's Health Magazine, sex therapists who work primarily with queer clients have mapped out a range of positions and techniques — spanning fingering, oral sex, scissoring, strap-on play, anal stimulation, and mutual masturbation — designed to work across bodies, identities, and comfort levels. A few of the standouts are worth knowing.

The Techniques Worth Adding to Your Rotation

Clitoral play is foundational, and the anatomy justifies the attention: the clitoris contains over 10,000 nerve endings. Sex and relationships psychotherapist Gigi Engle, author of Kink Curious, notes that even external stimulation alone — working the glans in circles, back-and-forth strokes, or a light pinch — triggers blood flow to the genitals and a flood of feel-good neurochemicals. For internal fingering, Wright emphasizes that there's no single correct technique; starting with one finger, adjusting angle and pressure, and checking in with your partner is the actual method. G-spot stimulation (think: two fingers curled upward toward a slightly spongier patch of tissue along the front vaginal wall) is most likely to land when layered with clitoral contact, kissing, or nipple play, according to sex therapist Casey Tanner, author of Feel It All. On lube: Jesse Kahn, LCSW-R, a sex therapist in New York, calls it non-negotiable — it reduces friction and makes everything more accessible, especially for people navigating dryness, pelvic pain, or dysphoria.

Mutual masturbation deserves more credit than it typically gets. Aleece Fosnight, a physician assistant specializing in sexual medicine in Asheville, North Carolina, describes it as a direct line into your partner's inner world — their rhythms, their preferences, what actually works for their body. It's also one of the most inclusive options on the table, accessible to people post-bottom surgery or anyone for whom penetration isn't on the menu. Bring a clitoral suction toy or motorized stroker into the mix — both best used with water-based lube — and you're getting something that genuinely rivals oral sex in sensation.

The throughline across all of it is communication: asking a partner to demonstrate how they touch themselves isn't awkward, it's the most efficient sex education available. Whatever you're working with anatomically or identity-wise, the best position is the one where everyone in the room actually feels good.

Read the original at Women's Health Magazine.